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Saturday, April 23, 2011

What or who is a firstborn son?

I have to start this blog in this fashion; in the form of an introspective question.  Incase you were wondering, here are some synonyms for introspective; deeply thoughtful, meditative, and/or reflective.  In order words before reading this blog further (untainted by my information), please first pause for at least a minute or two and think about my question below.  I heard a great speaker yesterday talk on “Get Real” (honesty), so let’s get real.  Writing down your answer to compare after reading may not be a bad idea.

Here’s the question, “When I say the phrase firstborn son, what comes to mind for you?

Okay, did this definition of a firstborn son ever occur to you?  Or to put it another way, do you see your firstborn son, or your brother, father, uncle (relatives), or friend who bears this title as one who fits this description.

A firstborn son is a legacy bearer, a protector, one who passionately embraces responsibility for others, one who endures hardship with resilience and integrity, and finally he pursues godly wisdom with vigor.

Being a legacy bearer is all about the firstborn son realizing that, regardless of siblings, the primary responsibility for the family legacy (traditions, values, etc) impacting and traversing to the next generation and more is his.  Yes other siblings have a part to play in that, but the firstborn son must be distinctly raised as the primary conduit.  The trickle-down effect on to younger siblings is usually sure to follow in most cases since they (younger siblings) mimic the elder.  Even if the firstborn son is the youngest child of the family, the paternal name and the values of the family are best carried forward by him since older sisters are most likely to get married and take on the names and values of their husbands.
ü      I have carried on the name and traditions of a Bambolo proudly.  My parents told me frequently that it was/is my responsibility to carry forward the Bambolo name, and frequently reminded me that my siblings are observing.  “Your younger brothers, and probably sisters (older) will do what they see you do.” they said.  Do you know who a (insert your last name here) is?  At ages 2 and 6 my children are already beginning to hear “You are a Bambolo, so this is who we are and how we behave…”.

A protector is a person who defends someone or something.  The firstborn son is prepared to defend the ideals, traditions, and most importantly individuals in his charge with his life where necessary.  The firstborn son is the “man at the city gate” who sees and knows quite well who comes and goes.  As a result he wards of those elements (people, habits, concepts, etc.) that are sure to cause destruction.
ü      In my role as the firstborn son for my family there have been many opportunities to adopt and embrace elements that were sure to destroy myself and those I seek to protect.  Some I fell prey to and battled extremely hard eliminate. But the security of my family is intact to this day because I have vowed to protect at all cost.

A firstborn son passionately embraces responsibility for others.  It is one thing for a person to “say” that he is responsible for another life God has placed in his care to groom and nourish.  It is another whole level for others around you to clearly see and comment on the excitement, infatuation, enthusiasm, honor, and delight with which you pursue that responsibility to care for those in your care.
ü      My wife (girlfriend then) fell in love with me initially because she had never seen someone so committed to the task of caring for his family regardless of how physically distant we were as a family (New York, Idaho, & Cameroon (Africa)).  Because I had not learned how to harness that passion, what drew us together almost broke us apart in divorce.

The firstborn son endures hardships with resilience and integrity.  First of all, some synonyms for endurance are tolerate, suffer, continue, and persist.  I will summarize the definition for you by stating it as “long suffering”.  In addition, resilience is defined as being durable, and integrity is certainly all about utmost honesty.  The battle to fulfill the role and purpose of the firstborn son seeks no retirement, let alone early retirement.  Until God decides to call you home, your family requires your sacrificial living and exemplary guidance. And yes, may I remind you, it will never be easy.  Let your guard down; you will pay the price.
ü      Beginning as a teenager and for eight long years, the flame of love for my family that I spoke about earlier had to be fanned with absolutely only one conversation a year at Christmas.  There were also years of denying my self a simple new pair of jeans, cap, shoes, or other luxuries my peers had although I too had the funds, in order to send my family much needed funds for survival where necessary.

A firstborn son must commit to pursue Godly wisdom with vigor.  In order to fully understand the position of the firstborn son, for those who bear this title as a heavenly calling, he must pursue a relationship with God and drink deeply from God’s word.  As definitive a covenantal relationship with God this position is (Exodus 4:22-23 & Luke 2:23), there is a deeper connection in understanding the nature of God that allows us to execute this role successfully.
ü      I possessed all of the components I have previously described as characteristics of the firstborn son in extremely good measures.  However, it was not until I learned and incorporated the scripture in true practicality that all of those components worked in unison and continue to serve me graciously well.

In conclusion, all of these components come together to make the lives of firstborn sons and those they impact very purposeful.  The lives that are dependent on him, as well as those he influences (male friends also) become lives of purpose because such a lifestyle is truly contagious.  Men of this caliber can truly impact a nation and realign its focus as a healthy society.  Can you see why Psalm 105:36 (referenced in previous blog) strikes at the core or our nations need at this moment?  Are the firstborn sons you know being prepared, or are prepared for such a critical position in your family, society, and your nation?

Sunday, April 10, 2011

Introducing the concept of the firstborn son!

Hello my old friends and new friends I am soon to meet.

We have an epidemic that rages through our families, communities, and nation like wildfire.  The epidemic I speak of is the incredible lack of sacrificial and selfless men within the culture and nation.  In the track of this raging wild fire lies and abundance of divorces, and more critically, fatherless homes.  This has come about primarily because in the last few generations we have failed miserably as a culture and neglected the concept of the firstborn son.  The concept of the firstborn son and its subsequent trickle down effect is proven and strategic to the stability of the family, community, and the nation.

The concept of the firstborn son is a biblical concept.  Since I expect Christians and non-Christians will have access to this blog and other material I will put forth, let me preface the biblical aspect of my material for the latter by saying this.  You may not agree that the Bible is "the book of life" as I do.  However, no one regardless of his/her belief argues the Bible is a great book.  As a matter of fact, it is historically the best selling book ever.  If nothing else, I expect you will respect its proven credibility since you have passionately appreciated books much less credible than the Bible I am sure.  Now, if anything happens beyond that point as you engage my material, it is left up to the condition of your heart.

The Bible is packed with a great number of depictions and models we are to follow and adopt for healthy living on this Earth.  One of the most prominent of all of these models is the concept of the firstborn son.  In order words, what I speak about and desire to teach you is nothing new, instead it is proven and has been successfully implemented for ages.  However, we as a generation have blatantly rejected a concept which is strategically positioned for the propagation of an impacting family legacy to our children.  The concept of the firstborn son is about teaching our children, especially our firstborn sons to be fully aware of their roles (not favoritism) in passing forward an impacting legacy and strength for your family, and the knowledge of exactly what that represents.  Here is one such proof out of the Bible, amongst a great many I will give in following blogs, to support my claim.  Psalm 105:36 states, "He smote also all the firstborn in their land, the beginning and chief substance of all their strength."  "He" represents God who in this case did this act to the nation of Egypt in His attempt to free Israel, and the verse clearly states what the firstborn son represented for the nation.  What do our firstborn sons represent in our culture today?  What does your firstborn son represent for your family?

I implore you, for the sake of the redemption of our culture and the need to break a damaging cycle by teaching our sons and fathers the true essence of what purposeful living means, take this journey with me and stay close to this blog.  You have heard of numerous books that deal with the term firstborn in the context of birth order and character traits.  There have also been numerous books talking about raising sons in regards to remedies such as father-son outings, rights of passage, and more.  As great as all of these components are, nothing prepares a young man or restores the countenance of a defeated man better than giving him a purpose for living greater than him.  This is exactly where we have failed our men and boys and as a result "purposeful living" as described and prescribed by God in the Bible for family stability has been replaced with a "me first" and "me happy" attitude draped on our men to the tone of abundant divorce and fatherless homes mentioned earlier. 

The blog exists in collaboration and support of my book which is expected to be in bookstores and online (ebook, kindle, etc) by July or August of 2011.  The book is titled The Firstborn Son: A Curse, a Gift, or a Calling.  My bio should give you a taste of my qualification as an author and speaker on this subject matter.  I have lived this concept successfully for many years now and the adverse effects of its lack in the culture is extremely clear to me noting how effectively well the concept has served my family. 

I look forward to great times ahead...
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